As I was scrolling through Facebook today, this image came across my screen. The message is simple enough, right? View the glass as half full, be the positive person in a bad situation. After all, a little positivity goes a long way.
But what if I can't? What if hard, negative situations cause me to shut down? What if I want so badly to be positive but if I'm able to feel any emotions at all they are full of dread?
Unfortunately, in many cases, this is my reality. I shut down so easily. It can be so small, just a comment made in passing or in the middle of an argument that I can't handle anymore.
When it happens, I'm numb. My thoughts are blank, my emotions disappear. I'm a robot whose batteries have been removed. It's scary sometimes, because I'm so emotionless that nothing brings me joy and with no joy, what's the point in existing?
This is where the CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) practice of mindfulness comes in handy. It involves focusing on the here and now. Looking at a situation and being mindful of what you can and can't control. And right here is where little reminders to stay positive no matter the situation are needed. For me, it's so easy to focus on the things I can't control. On the awfulness of my current world. And when I'm shut down, it's even more difficult to remember that I do, in fact, have positives in my life.
The most important thing is to learn how to get out of that funk. Sometimes all I can do is go to bed and pray the next day will be better. Other times, something as small as what put me there can bring me back out. And then, there are times when despite the odds I am able to use my coping skills and get back to a positive place, even when my world seems to be falling apart.
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